In between the mayhem and uncertainty of the major COVID-19 lockdowns during 2020, our hearts as a family were broken when we were informed that our beloved Brother had passed away, unexpectedly.
Unlike many deaths during this time this was not due to the epidemic, but due to heart complications from a strong, capable and physically fit individual. A complete shock from a person who was larger than life in both presence and stature.
A confident and extremely fit giant of a man that loved the Highlands as if it were his birthplace and enjoyed the peace, beauty, tranquillity and magnitude of the local area. He revelled in this place that offered so much to see and do and this appealed to his adventurous spirit along with the many close friends he made in the years he lived in Aberdeenshire. He was one of three brothers, a brother to five sisters and a doting and loving father to a son and two daughters.
The passing of Rolfe Hare at 59 years old not only shook the foundations of his family to the core but also that of the local community in which he lived and worked. For family members left behind and in the local area including close friends, there comes the daunting, drawn-out, often awkward, emotional planning of an unexpected death. Coupled with grief and sorrow, as many reading, this will understand, is a complete minefield in knowing what to do, when to do it, how to do it, how to please everyone and abide by their wishes.
Yet stick to the aforementioned and previous conversations with the deceased over libations on past evenings on this eventuality. Something that when spoke about seemed to be decades away and mere passing comment at the time; yet there we found ourselves. He had gone, he had left us.
How do we deal with the funeral arrangements, what sort of service, who says what, what happens where and how do we support those in the family who may require to support? So many questions, but most importantly how do we celebrate the life of our beloved Rolfe. Enter Isabel Addison at ‘Legacy’. A friend of the family and well respected as a celebrant, Izzy has the aptitude and understanding to help with these difficult questions and this trying period in any family’s life.
She understands first-hand the pain of loss and the fog of grief and sorrow that descends. Isabel was able to be a beacon to our family and lead the way in how the ceremony was to be laid out and how to handle this tender issue. She spent time speaking with family and friends, researching Rolfe’s personality, traits, interests, and most importantly his humour. Delving into his childhood, family life, sporting endeavours, entertaining stories and anecdotes of happier times and in turn unearthing our brothers character and legacy which he left behind.
This helped everyone to come to terms with their sorrow and be able to accept the funeral and wake as a celebration of life and impart their own fond memories. This was done with passion, empathy, sympathy and a personal touch. We still keep in touch with Isabel as she tentatively asks how everyone is now and if there is anything she can still do, almost a year on.
We consider her a friend of the family, someone who guided us when we needed a helping hand. Her dedication and approach is second to none in her role as a celebrant. Although I sincerely hope you should never need her services, I would wholeheartedly recommend her. Rest assured, she will be there, ready and willing to help you, as she has done for us and many others.